Life is full of if's and but's.

People tell me it philosophy, some say its Art and other prove it to be science!

Many of us look back to our past and say ‘Oh what If I had done this ! what if I had done that! But the circumstances around dint make it happen. Even if we think we can’t get a  second chance in life so we have to think wisely about our future. Well this reminds me that life is full of ifs and but’s.

Well my friends life is full of if’s and but’s , may it be a simple thing as getting up early morning for a quick walk or going gym or physical exercise to do that we have 100’s of if’s and but’s isn’t it? Like If I haven’t slept last night I would have make it, If I am not loaded with work I would have made time to gym or oops its summer etc. and we keep pushing/delaying things for tomorrow. Well a wise man rightly stated if the things/tasks are not done today! It will never be done tomorrow. We are never happy with current life as grass is always greener on the other side one always envy what others people has done for example aspire to have other job role/ other kind of life we have if I could do MBA I would have been XXX and but I dint do because of XXX reason so its that always when we have goals are other’s victory is and we know we also can achieve it, everyone has the same 24 hours in a day but  we somehow have strings attached to all the if’s and but’s for not doing the things.

“If’s and but’s is a term used to describe the reason/excuses for not doing something.”

By now you would have guessed that I’m going to talk about the definition of this idiom. Let me dig deeper and wish to share my thoughts.

A lot of people have an attitude that involves a lot of “ifs” and “but’s”. This kind of attitude often becomes a huge hurdle in the path that leads to success. People who welcome everything with either an if’s or a but’s are essentially the people who are quite unlikely to succeed in life. Why is that so?

When a person puts the clause stating if’s or a but’s , they restrict themselves from doing things that should otherwise be done and which they are usually capable of doing. Thus, people should make a sub-conscious effort of turning every “if” and “but” into something more positive.

Let me take the word “if” first. The moment we start the sentence with this word, we are sending out vibes of doubt. We are putting condition on potential good actions by doubting that would even happen.

Some examples are:

1.       If I get more money, I will do more charity.

2.       If I have to lose some weight, I can fit in that dress and be happy.

3.       If I can afford it, I would love to have that.

4.       If I had more education, I would have a better job and earn more  money.

5.       If I have more time, I would love to do….

I can keep going on and on. I think you get the point. In all the above mentioned cases, happiness and peace of mind is conditional. We have trained our mind and body to accept such virtual happiness scenarios. We are okay to retrofit the outcomes in our life back to our thinking. To turn the statements into more positive one, I have a very simple rule. Change all If’s in your life to when’s so the above sentence will look like:

1.       When I get more money, I will do more charity.

2.       When I have lose some weight, I can fit in that dress and be happy.

3.       When I can afford it, I would love to do that.

4.       When I will get more educated, I would have a better job and earn more money.

Now let me discuss on the word “but”:

Some examples are:

1.       But I can’t….

2.       But why should I….

3.       But I don’t have time to do this…

To turn the statements into more positive one, I have again a simple rule. Change all the But’s in your life to Then Again so the above statement will look like:

1.       But I can’t, then again I can try.

2.       But why should I, then again why wouldn’t I try.

3.       But I don’t have time to do this, then again I will find out some time.

Les Brown says: “the only limits to the possibilities in your life tomorrow are the but’s or if’s you use today.

Well these if’s and but’s never end. I believe all of us can predict, foresee our future to an extent. Start shedding down the if’s and but’s and substitute with all the possibilities. Thus to anyone who wish to achieve something, the question of if’s and but’s should  never arise. The only question that will make the difference is” “Why shouldn’t I”…

If only.. If only.. If only…

But.. But… But…

Life is full of if’s and but’s

It’s all in our hand how we can make a living out of it J J